Why Your Life Is The Art You Are Here To Create

Create – verb (cre·ate)

~ meaning: to bring into existence | to produce through imaginative skill

A couple of weeks ago, my 11 year old son told me that people had told him he wasn’t creative. This child takes everything apart and transforms it. He has an agile mind and an uncanny ability to alchemise the old and broken. Among many other projects, he parsed a rusty laundry rack into multiple sling shots, and dismantled a hideous fluoro electric bubble blower to create a fan with an array of tiny coloured lights.

I had to explain to him that in our culture, most people believe creativity is solely the realm of artists, musicians and writers; and that he is, in fact, highly creative. He was delighted.

You are also highly creative. Creativity is an internal mechanism natural to all human beings. We are here to bring our lives into existence using our imaginative skill. Or at least we could be. There is often a lot in the way …

Blocks to Creativity

Interestingly, the creative blocks of artists making art are also the creative blocks of humans making lives. Here’s a few examples:

Holding self-diminishing beliefs: I’m not good enough, no one wants what I have to offer, I can’t do it, there’s something fundamentally wrong with me etc.

These beliefs are noisy and clever. They get loud whenever we try to create. They are cunning and will manifest in ways that seem very valid – like my son being told by others that he’s not creative. They are also just trying to keep you safe, invisible and away from criticism, rejection and ‘failure’.

Perfectionism – needing self, the environment, or your creations to be absolutely perfect BEFORE you can act.

Perfectionism is the natural born killer of creativity. It’s rabid, cunning and vice-like. It has prevented many a talented human from beginning on their fantastical idea (or life) and many more from sharing their ideas, creations and themselves.

A perfect life is impossible for two reasons: it’s highly subjective (who is the judge anyway?); and applies only to mathematical and mechanical processes, computer languages and geometry. It is unattainable in anything as messy, unpredictable and changeable as a life.

As a recovering perfectionist, I know first hand that perfectionism leads to dissatisfaction, irritability, intolerance and a cramping of creative expression that slides inevitably into depression and anxiety.


We live in a culture where busy has become noble, and being time-poor is chronic. This is a nonsense. You are (and have always been) in charge of your own time. Being busy is a way of avoiding creativity, and staying safely in a comfort zone that may be challenging, but won’t reject you. It’s also a cunning means to avoid the whispers of change from within.

Creativity and Self-Love

You may be wondering (if you read last week’s post) how on earth creativity is related to self-love. If you did read that post, you will already know that self-love is essential for living a fulfilling life, as well as loving others. What self-loving actions also do is create spaciousness. If you take a bath, go for a walk, listen to your favourite music, dance, spend fun time with children or pets: your mind relaxes, you relax. You stop being on task.

If you are constantly connected – tweeting, Facebooking, checking your Instagram stats, planning, working and in meetings – you deny yourself the space and time that your creative inspiration needs. Think of creativity as a gas. It needs cracks in the surface in order to seep out! The time you give yourself for self-love, whether it’s sleeping, enjoying a meal, time on your own to dream, or doodling in your favourite journal, creates those cracks.

I absolutely LOVE my work, but if I don’t put it all down and create space, the ideas and inspiration stop coming and I teeter on burnout.

Creativity and Your Life

Ask yourself these questions

– Am I applying my imaginative skill to creating my life?

– Am I being compassionately intolerant of my self-limiting beliefs, perfectionism and busyness?

– Am I creating spaciousness (through acts of self-love) that allow inspiration to flow?

How did you fare? If you got a resounding YES to all three questions – Hooray! If not, don’t worry, you can start changing that today.

 What I understand from 10 years of coaching highly creative, big-dreaming, healers, change-makers and artists is that every one of us carries the burgeoning seeds of a deeply satisfying life within. Bringing that into reality requires courage, imagination and creativity.

Here’s a few practical suggestions for opening up to creative inspiration and creating your life using your imaginative skill:

  • create times during the day where you are unavailable (phone off or on silent) and don’t access any social media – do something entirely ‘pointless’ with that time, ie something that won’t ‘get you anywhere’ or improve you – just for the sheer enjoyment of it.
  • practice random and regular acts of self-love that create spaciousness
  • keep a notebook handy for any ideas that pop up throughout the day
  • take imperfect action
  • develop a daily mindset practice to help you move beyond self-limiting beliefs and into the zone of your genius self

And remember – your life is the art you are here to create.

If you don’t already have a daily mindset practice, try my simple, powerful video process. It takes 10 minutes and will help you step into empowered relationship with any aspect of your life. The more you do it, the more space you create in your life for what is truly, madly, deeply satisfying to you.


  • Lisa

    Reply Reply April 14, 2017

    Thank u! I have screenshotted the list.

    The line take imperfect action is resonating with me. X

    • darling_lover

      Reply Reply April 14, 2017

      I love imperfect action. It’s so helped me to get out of my head and share my creations.

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